September 9, 2014 57 comments

The 5 (Blog Reader) Love Languages

by Regina

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I’m not the only one who started every conversation for five years with the whole “What are your love languages?” bit, right? Okay, good. Just checking. I knew you were as awesome as I am.

But for the two of you in the world who didn’t get obsessed with this craze, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, that outlines the different ways people receive, show, and interpret love (touch, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and gifts). You may be buying your girlfriend all the flowers in the universe, but if gifts don’t mean much to her, she still might not feel loved. With me?

So, over the past few months of reading blog posts, writing, reading your comments, replying, talking with other blog writers and readers via email and social media, etc., I’ve discovered what I believe to be the 5 love languages of blog readers. BUT FIRST:

What makes you feel loved as a blog reader?

Before you check out the five blog reader love languages below, please take two minutes to list three to five things (out loud, right now) that let you know a blogger really cares about you. What makes you feel the author is concerned for you? happy you’re there? ready to serve you?

Studies prove that this post will be 47% more effective if you think of your blog reader love languages before you read the list below because you’ll be stating what naturally comes to you, with no prompting.

Important note: When I say things like “studies prove” or “as history has shown” it means I have completely fabricated everything that follows.

And now, for the 5 love languages of your blog readers:


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1. Blog Quality

The overall care and concern you put into each post, into the blog itself, and into your brand, can relax or distress your readers. The way you approach your “responsibilities” to your readers can either help or offend. When you’re trying to build in lots of blog quality, there are a few things to consider:

  • The images you include with your post. Are they pretty? Will they be appealing for your readers to look at? Do they entice? Do they make your readers happy? Are your images pretty much just a repeat of another blog?
  • The formatting of your blog and posts. Do you do text-on-text-on-text, or do you include bulleted lists, images, lines, numbered lists, dividers, graphics, and more?
  • Your use of proper spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc. I break the punctuation rules a bit. And I start sentences with “and” or “but” sometimes. But, it’s all about whether your readers connect with your style or not. I don’t know anyone who connects with 17 misspelled words in one paragraph. I just don’t.

Examples of posts with high blog quality built in: 

  • Check out these two (1 // 2 ) DIY posts by Ciera Holzenthal. She is amazing at including beautiful, relevant pictures and careful instructions. It makes me feel she actually cares whether I’m able to recreate the project or not. I kinda love her.
  • Also, my current blog crush, Rachel Gadiel, is a genius with her beautiful layout, simple fonts, nice headings, and elegant bullet lists, for which she uses the “+” sign. Just look (1 // 2). Is she not epic? I feel like I could stay on her blog for days. Days. With cups of tea/wine + chocolate.

Action steps you can take to show your readers you care through blog quality:

  • Take a look at your blog and ask yourself if anything needs to change in order to entice people to stay longer. Ask a friend to help you out if you’re having a hard time taking an unbiased look at your online home.
  • Think about changes that may need to be made with your main text font, your heading font, your main blog post image, your supplementary images, your header, your blog description, your sidebar, and your blog colors.
  • Whenever you think your blog post is done, and ready to be published, check again. <<< This checklist is a guide for you, but feel free to modify it for your brand.

2. Public Displays of Affection (PDA)

No one likes being the hidden girlfriend. This is a free nugget for anyone out there who wants to show a lady she is cared for: CLAIM YOUR WOMAN. We probably all enjoy varying levels of public affection, but most women like to be acknowledged in public. Turns out, some of your wonderful blog readers may feel the same:

PDA-One of the 5 love languages of blog readers

Example of a blogger who shows her readers affection publicly: Erika Madden of Olyvia Media, hands down. Not only does she take time to thank people on social media (as is referenced in Marlene’s blog post comment above), but she holds weekly office hours on Facebook to answer questions and be available. Classy lady.

Action steps you can take to show your readers affection, publicly:

  • Connect with your readers/commenters on other platforms (start following them on Twitter, commenting on their Instagram photos, and re-pinning their pins).
  • Shout out certain readers in a relevant way on your blog. Use them as examples. Your readers can likely learn a lot from each other.
  • Do some personal, meaningful #FFs (Follow Fridays on Twitter) where you encourage others to go connect with readers you love.
  • Or, don’t even wait for #FF, tell people about other exciting people they can connect with for no other reason than that you love the person, or that they left an encouraging comment for you, or both.



 

3. Tailored Content

As you most likely have a purpose when you read a blog (to learn, to laugh, to heal, to grow), so do your readers. They also have a certain style, specific personalities, and distinct needs. For whatever your readers’ purposes may be, consider developing content tailored to those desires or problems.

Example of a blogger who tailors her content well: Melyssa Griffin of The Nectar Collective. I mean, she makes free worksheets and stuff. Who does that? I want to know her in real life. Her audience can easily feel like she’s spending time on their needs because they are totally the “I want something pretty and functional to print off and fill out” types.



Action steps you can take to tailor your content:

  • Consider whether each blog post is best complemented with images, tutorial instructions, downloadable worksheets, epic pins people can save to their Pinterest boards, checklists, or any other creative items you can think of.
  • Make sure your content is friendly for readers who use mobile devices if a significant percentage of your audience accesses your site that way.
  • Ask yourself why your audience spends time on your blog. Ask your audience. If they’re there for entertainment, they may just want great stories and the occasional image. If they’re there to learn, your stories might not cut it without some relevant takeaways and supplementary materials.

4. Response Quality

I feel this should be the simplest category, but I think it’s actually the most underutilized. Responding to readers. The quality of your response is determined by:

  • your timeliness
  • how tailored your reply is to the person responding (translation: don’t be generic)
  • the level of thought you put into your response
  • the time you spent making sure the response was accurate (did you spell their name correctly and make sure your links worked?)

An example of someone who is an excellent responder: Naomi Hattaway. I love how genuine her responses are on her blog and how authentic she is on Twitter. She also takes time to leave meaningful comments on other people’s blogs.

Action steps you can take to create quality responses to your blog readers:

  • Make sure readers are able to subscribe to your replies to their comments. If you’re using WordPress, a plugin such as Subscribe to Comments Reloaded may help. For WordPress and almost any other type of blog platform, also check out Disqus. When readers are able to subscribe, they’ll have a simple way of being notified of your response. Else, they’ll have to keep checking your post over and over again. Let’s be honest: that’s not gonna happen very often.
  • Research your commenter before replying. If they’ve left a link to their website, Twitter profile, or other online platform, check it out and learn something about them.
  • Read each comment at least twice before crafting a reply. Once to understand it. Then again after you’ve thought about what you might like to receive in reply to a comment like that. After you write your response, read the original comment once more to make sure you’ve answered all questions and addressed each important point.
  • Try to post on days where you’ve carved out some time to respond. That way, your blog post won’t just sit there with five unanswered comments for a week.
  • Go above + beyond in your helpfulness and level of engagement. Don’t forget to also take the conversation to other social platforms as well. “Dear @SoAndSoReader, I’m still laughing at your comment on my post. Thank you for making my day with that story.”

5. Tailored Tone

One ring to rule them all: SPEAK TO YOUR READER, NOT AT YOUR READER.

Use “you” and “your” and all those real life conversation words we learned as wee babes. Do you feel like I’m speaking directly to you when I use “you” in a sentence? Because I am. When you write like you speak, it feels more like a conversation. Your readers are more likely to want to respond (thus making it a real conversation).

One more ring to rule them all: TAILOR YOUR TONE TO YOUR READERS.

Examples of bloggers with different (but effective + tailored) tones: Melissa Gondek of Small Company Artworks (playful, real, sarcastic in the funny way), Peg Fitzpatrick (delightful, helpful, positive), Aussa Lorens (just. freaking. humorous. I don’t know what else to say about her).

Action steps to tailor your tone more and show your readers you’re talking to them:

  • Before you publish each post, read it out loud to make sure it flows naturally.
  • Take out any big + fancy words that don’t add value to the post.
  • Add in a joke, applicable pop culture reference, or relevant story.
  • Don’t feel the pressure to address a huge audience; just talk to one person as you write.

How can you really apply these love languages?

The key is figuring out what your specific audience members respond to most. Since they’re all drawn to you, they’re likely to have a few things in common with you and with your other readers.

Perhaps yours is an educational blog, so tailored content and blog quality will pretty much be the love languages toward the top of all your readers’ lists. But maybe, due to the age and online habits of your audience, PDA is huge as well.


How can you discover your audience’s love languages?

Ask. Create a beautiful, free survey.

Observe. And by observe, I mean stalk. On social media. And by stalk, I mean engage, non-awkwardly.

Imagine. Put yourself in their shoes, like you did at the beginning of this post. What works for you?

Test. Like your very own scientific experiment. Try different blog reader love languages. See what gets the best response. See what makes the biggest difference for others. See what feels right. Focus heavily on each love language for 2 – 4 weeks. Take notes. Be a scientist.

Ask. Observe. Imagine. Test.
#AOIT. It’s like the easiest acronym in the world, y’all. You’re welcome.


Sooo, what makes you feel loved? Please let me know below in the comments. Because I want to make sure I do whatever it is. Provided it’s not really weird. Thanks. You’re the best.


Photo: michela ravasio

57 responses to “The 5 (Blog Reader) Love Languages”

  1. This was really fun to read! I didn’t do the whole love languages thing when it first exploded, but recently I took the quiz and was surprised at what was not my top one and that I had 2 or 3 basically in a tie. This application to blog readers is so unique! I totally agree with, ummm, everything. I try to write like I speak so that my readers really know me and I’ve been working on crafting better graphics and a higher quality space overall. I have to say I’m a whiz at responding quickly because I got nothing else to do! As for you, I love your graphics, your quirky inserts (like the studies show) that show your personality, your engagement on social media (I believe we’ve had some twitter exchanges!), and all the helpful content you provide!

    • regina says:

      Jacquelyn,

      Thank you for saying it was fun to read. I try to make my posts short, but it doesn’t seem to work out somehow.

      It’s crazy how that quiz and the results can reveal so much. For the most part, I think it is very insightful. It’s a concept that makes so much sense, and I always wonder why it wasn’t thought of sooner, or why I hadn’t heard of it sooner.

      You always seem to have a very natural tome, which I appreciate. And, may I say, as random as it is, I really love your sidebar. It’s neat, colorful, purposeful, and enticing. I think you’re doing things wonderfully over there.

      Thank you for your sweet compliment to the blog. Yes, we have had some Twitter exchanges and I think you’re delightful. I appreciate your feedback in this comment. Thanks for reading.

  2. Tope Shonekan says:

    You do it pretty well, Regina. I think for the most part, love language finds its natural recipient. Not every expression of love will appeal to everyone. BUT I like that you respond to most comments in a personal not formulaic manner. That you give away amazing content that’s relevant not gimmicky. Conversation, not a lecture.
    And I want to be like you when I grow up 🙂

    • regina says:

      Tope, that’s an interesting way to think about it >>> that the language finds its best recipients. Thank you for your awesome compliments as well.

      Haha. Well, when I grow up I want to have wisdom like you, so I guess we can call it even?

  3. Gi Csome says:

    I really struggle to tailor my tone. I´m used to write in an academic tone, and tend to bore people. I´ve been trying to write as if I was writing to a friend, and already had better response from my readers.
    The one thing that bothers me the most about some blogs is the lack of response to comments. I mean, if your post received 150+ comments, I understand if you cannot respond to all of them. But there are some bloggers that only get 1 or 2 comments and never respond. Bloggers who act that way tell me they don´t care what their readers have to say, they just wanna talk and be heard. I´ve actually unfollow several blogs for this very reason.
    I really apreciate the time and care you put in your post and how you connect with us. As Tope said, I want to be like you when I grow up (and only 20% of that wish is because I want your awesome hair).

    • regina says:

      Gi, that’s so excellent to hear that you’ve been getting that kind of response from your readers. So is that your key for now? You just try to write as if writing to someone you know and like?

      I agree with you on the comments thing. I know it can get crazy for people, but it would seem the thing to do is remove comments as a feature if you don’t intend to respond to them. But perhaps some people leave them up just so readers can interact with each other? I’m not sure on that one yet.

      Thank you for taking time to read, to comment, and to say something so sweet. Being open and genuine just seems to be your personality, and I love that.

      Speaking of hair — I’ve often wanted to do a cute short cut like the one you have in a recent post of yours. I feel like I’d eventually want to grow it back thought and my hair seems to grow so slowly, so I haven’t had the guts to go shorter yet. Maybe one day. After all, we are name twins–it would make sense to follow in your footsteps.

      • Gi Csome says:

        Yes, I´m trying to write as if writing to a friend and so far it seems to be going better. At least my BF doesn´t think I´m boring people any more!
        As for my hair, I only cut it ´cause it grows pretty fast and I knew I could grow out of my cut in just a few months if I hated it, ha.

  4. Melissa says:

    “And by observe, I mean stalk.” hahahahah I’m still laughing. I agree with Jacquelyn that your “quirky inserts” are fantastic. You say you try to write short posts, but I’d be really sorry if you did. And yeah, it’s all about me.

    But in all seriousness, using the Love Languages idea is sooooo helpful. When I write, I usually imagine that I have to entertain my three best RL friends at dinner, without the use of alcohol or interpretive dance. You’ve given me a whole ‘nother way to think about what they might like to hear/read/think about.

    And I wanted to say this first, but I’m still hugging myself in delight at that shout-out. Thanks. 🙂

    • regina says:

      Yay. I love when you comment.

      Thank you Melissa for your comment on post length, because I really just don’t think “short” is my strong suit.

      Now, when you say “interpretive dance,” how interpretive are we getting? I may want to join in on the next one because hip/cool dancing is not my strong suit either.

      You are way welcome for the shout out. You’re one of my favorite Internet voices ever.

      • Melissa says:

        You know how sometimes people get used to your “joking” voice, so when you say something serious, they think you’re still joking? Can we please invent a “facetious” font so we can be clear about that? Because you just made my year with that compliment.

        And for the record, it’s my experience that the relative interpretivity of the dance stands in direct correlation to the amount of alcohol consumed. So if you’re still working on those wine corks for the candles, I bet your dancing has gotten pretty darned interpretive.

        • regina says:

          I switched to Guinness for now. And the coffee shop I’m at is playing some pretty out there music. These people are in for a show in a second. It’s about to get weird.

          And yes. We need a facetious font. Or even a punctuation mark we can end sentences with. Perhaps a little image of Will Ferrell’s face?

          “Sarcastic sentence, sentence, sentence [Will Ferrell face punctuation mark]”

          I like it.

          And I was being serious. I love your Internet voice. I feel like you’d be so fun to talk to in real life.

  5. Maria Falvey says:

    Great tips in this post and nice examples of each found throughout your own posts. The hidden girlfriend reference made me laugh,but it’s true – claim your love!

    • regina says:

      Haha. Exactly. I’ve had that convo with about every female friend ever. Thank you for commenting Maria. I always appreciate hearing from you.

  6. Olivia says:

    Regina, this is another AMAZING post! This advice is so helpful and I’ll definitely be implementing these tips into my content and blog! Thanks for sharing your wisdom! 🙂

    • regina says:

      Olivia, your blog is already so useful, but I’m glad you liked the tips. Your support is always so epic. Thank you for reading.

  7. Aussa Lorens says:

    Thanks for the shout out, Regina! Loved reading this– you never fail to give me something new to think about/try. And you get me all excited about this blogging thang.

    • Regina says:

      Aussa, you are most welcome for the mention. I love, love your writing voice and stories. Thank you for taking time to stop by and to read. I love your comment too; that inspires me to keep writing. Thanks.

  8. Erika Madden says:

    This is such a delightful post; I’m gleeful over here, and not just because you included me in such a wonderful way!! (Though seriously, thank you.)

    I was so obsessed with the 5 Love Languages book when it came out. This is a fabulous adaptation of those ideas. My biggest struggle at this point is my tone or voice. It takes some time to figure that one out! Conveying the proper attitude through text alone takes a lot of practice! (Therefore I way overuse exclamation points. haha)

    I’m a big fan of PDAs and response quality. Nothing leaves a bitter taste in my mouth more than someone who treats other people online as numbers to collect and ignore rather than humans to engage and befriend. I know that gets harder to do as followers grow and “internet fame” becomes a reality, but it’s a worthy challenge.

    • Regina says:

      Erika, it is my pleasure to mention you wherever I can. I want everyone to connect with you, so you are very welcome.

      I think you are correct about tone taking time. It naturally exists inside of us but we just learn to incorporate it more and more (and also to be more comfortable with it). I think a lot of that actually comes from audience interaction and realizing that people really respond to you and connect with you–as your readers clearly do. People love you.

      Yeah, I also agree with you about people treating others like numbers. It gets very difficult to manage all your platforms/connections as your blog grows and before it’s sensible to hire someone, but I think it’s easy to tell the people who try to engage vs. those who want to show off a bunch of “followers.”

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment and your insight Erika. Always a pleasure.

  9. jaklumen says:

    Aussa brought me here. Yes, her tone is tailored very well to her readers, but I wanted to point out that her response quality is very good, too, which is something that’s very important to me. I really value reciprocity.

    She really takes time to respond in a thoughtful way, and I’m saying that about comments from her other readers (as they are entertaining to read), not just mine. And she takes time to comment on what I have to say at my own space, too. I don’t reckon that’s easy as I can ramble pretty academic and philosophical– I write about The Hero’s Journey and the Tao after all.

    • Regina says:

      Wow, when I went to your site and simply read “and over 10 years worth of content,” you automatically became one of the most awesome bloggers I know. Not many people have 2,000+ posts to their name. Congratulations on just being consistent. I love that. Moving on . . .

      Thank you for coming by the blog; I’m so glad Aussa brought you. I think she’s amazing because she has 1.3 billion comments to respond to and does so with so much care. That’s an excellent point you make.

      Thank you for the feedback and for the comment in general. I appreciate your time today.

      • jaklumen says:

        Thank you… that’s the nicest thing anyone’s said to me today, not to mention so thoughtful.

        Aussa knows how to engage an audience, so I figured you had something valuable, and, you do. I will be back to read more. Social interaction is still tough for me, even online, so, I figure, I’ll learn all I can.

  10. Laura says:

    What makes me feel loved? A Regina who helps me post by post to develop my blogging voice.
    I usually write to my sister (in my head) when I write a new post.
    And all those people must feel loved, too, to be mentioned and linked with so much praise. Thanks for the great inspiration. (How am I ever going to go through all those open tabs now?)

    • Regina says:

      Laura, hahaha. Thank you. You are so funny + sweet for that.

      That’s smart to write to your sister–I’m assuming you are somewhat fond of her. I try to write to one of my friends who gets my humor, because, let’s be honest, it’s not for everyone.

      And, yay. I’m glad to cause Open Tab Syndrome with links to all those great people. They truly inspire me. I just checked out your blog and enjoyed the mess out of your “YES” post. Have you seen the movie Yes Man. Perfect fit for you, in my opinion. I loved the message of it.

      Thanks so much for spending time reading + commenting. It really encourages me and helps me write.

  11. AMAZING post! I’m going to take your “5 Love Languages” graphic & hang it above my computer to remind me while I’m cooking up a blog post. I could probably use more bullet points, numbered lists, & graphics in my posts to pretty it up. And I want to get to a point where I can offer free downloads of iPhone screensavers & such. You’re awesome! Thank you so much for sharing your great wisdom 🙂

    • regina says:

      Lauren, it means a lot that you’ve taken the time to read this post ant to comment. Thank you. Also, that’s a sweet idea of hanging up the blog reader love languages. I’m gonna jack that from you just a bit.

      Your blog is quite beautiful. Do you offer your wedding planning services through a separate site? I think your free downloads idea is spot on. They get me every single time. Plus, I’m sure yours will be attractive judging from your site.

      As to a few of your favorite things (as listed on your About page): I love that your dog’s name is Milo. I’m a huge morning tea fan. And pretty notebooks run my life. I don’t even use them all, but I need to make them an official line item on my budget. It’s bad.

      Enough of my ramble-a-lots. Thank you for stopping by the blog Lauren. Much appreciated.

    • regina says:

      P.S. I think the Twitter link on your sidebar may lead to the wrong Twitter account rt now. Had to search for you on there but I found ya.

  12. Naomi says:

    Oh how I love this blog post and want to shout to everyone from the mountains : COME READ THIS! I need to work on tailoring my content, for SURE as I’m all over the map now. Thanks for that goodness.

    I must bit my tongue about comments. Yes. Respond, people. Even if you don’t respond ON the blog post itself, shoot a quick email to the commenter and say “Dude, thanks for stopping by! I appreciate you and I hope you’re having a _______ day (insert random word that floats your boat for the day).

    • regina says:

      Naomi, I love your plan to tailor your content (as disclosed in our recent discussion); I’m way more excited about it than is normal, I’m sure.

      I’ve never really thought about the whole “emailing people directly in thanks” angle. That’s a good option too. You definitely want to acknowledge the commenter in some way. However, when you have 5,000 comments, a million emails, and many other social platforms to stay up on, I know it get’s difficult.

      I know I let certain comments slip by. I don’t mean to, and I certainly don’t have the 5,000 comments excuse, but sometimes I unintentionally let it happen. I think regular blog audits can help minimize this. I’d rather discover a comment three months late and reply than never respond and thank someone for their valuable time.

      I could go on for days about commenting. Thank you for leaving your thoughts Naomi. They’re always welcome and helpful.

  13. Maritza says:

    Well-thought out post. As a blogger who is ever-so-evolving, I actually ask myself the same questions about. Great post!

    • regina says:

      Thank you Maritza. I really appreciate your comment. Your profile pic in your sidebar is so great. You’re definitely making me want to get new headshots.

      Thanks for stopping by. Great job on your pretty blog as well.

  14. Great post, Regina! I love Gary Chapman’s book, and I think it’s so smart that you’ve adapted the premise to relate to the life of a blogger. You rock as always! (There’s your PDA for today!)

    • regina says:

      Thank you Arianne. That book, right? I was obsessed for far too long. I love Dr. Chapman’s writing on the subject.

      Thanks for coming by to read and to comment. I appreciate the PDA today. You’re super supportive, as always. Also, your blog is super beautiful, as usual. You do everything with such excellence Arianne.

  15. Maru says:

    What a fabulous article Regina! It’s always difficult to find the way to connect to readers in a real and honest matter, I always try to show my appreciation in social media and comments, it’s definitely something that needs work, but when it’s done properly, it makes a lot of difference!

    • regina says:

      Aww Maru, I just love when you comment. Thank you for your sweet words. You are such a gem of an example actually of someone who does connect with readers on social media and in comments in a real way. I love your “voice” when you talk to others.

      Thank you for leaving your thoughts. I appreciate it.

  16. Kriselda says:

    Hey Regina!

    You are an angel sent from Heaven! I recently discovered your blog and have read almost every article you’ve written. I’m about to launch my own blog pretty soon and I’m getting pretty nervous about everything… I know I shouldn’t because you have given me super awesome tips. THANK YOU.
    I do have a question that’s related to language. I have decided to write mainly in english but I also want to write in my native language (finnish). The problem is, that I’m not sure how to carry it out. Should I write the finnish translations after every paragraph? Or should I write the whole post first in english then the translation after that. I know that would be more clear and clean, but where to place my awesome pictures then…? Thank you for your help 🙂

    • regina says:

      Kriselda, aww, you are too sweet to me. Thank you so much for the high compliment of reading my blog and spending time commenting.

      Congratulations on the decision to launch a blog. It’s understandable to be nervous even if you’re perfectly prepared. I get nervous about the majority of the stuff I do, so I feel you on that.

      I think there are a few options. I don’t have a perfect answer for you, but I think you’d be right to avoid doing the translation paragraph by paragraph. I think that would create an environment where readers of either language have the potential to be distracted then disconnect.

      >>> Perhaps put a note in one language at the top of the post that the translation is below, then proceed with the post in the first language, follow it with the post in the second language. Use pictures with captions or text overlay in the first language with the first portion of the post, and then use slightly different angles/images with captions or text in the second language with the second part of the post.

      >>> You could also make each language a different post. The title of one might be “Blah Blah Blah (in English)” and the title of the other one might be “Blah Blah Blah (in Finnish)” < << which would let English subscribers know to skip that one. >>> Lastly, you could make them two separate blogs that link to each other in the following ways:
      –at the beginning + end of each post you could ask “looking for this post in Finnish, click here” (but in the appropriate language of course)
      — on each page and in the sidebar of each blog, you could have links to the other language
      — if you go with this method, you could make the Finnish blog a subdomain of the main blog, ex: Kriselda.com and fi.Kriselda.com or Finnish.Kriselda.com

      I hope that made sense. Please let me know if not. I’d poll a few friends and ask them what they would prefer as a reader. Also, check out a few other bilingual blogs and see what they are doing.

      Thank you for your question Kriselda, and I know this is random, but coming soon pages and great typography excite me. So your current coming soon page makes me really want to see the live site. Great job.

      • Kriselda says:

        Thanks for your advice! I’ll just start meditating with those thoughts and maybe I’ll have a crystal clear solution after that 😀
        And thanks for the compliment! I’ll let you know when I launch my page. I would love to hear your honest opinion about it and I sure will be back for some further questions along my blogging journey!

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  18. I’m pretty sure whatever my love languages are- you get them. I love how thoughtful your responses are and I love an informative post that makes me laugh (not feel stupid).

    Plus, I’m a sucker for worksheets.

    So you win. Every time.

    • regina says:

      Aww, Colleen, thank you. Sorry to reply to your comment so late.

      Haha, I’m a sucker for worksheets too. Big time. They make my life complete. Really, I use/make them so much because I’m not a naturally organized person, but I desperately want to be. Sometimes our creative brains can actually thrive with a bit of structure.

      Thank you for your sweet comment.

  19. […] Did you read that Love Languages book that was all the rage a few years back? Well now you can read about the 5 Blog Reader Love Languages! […]

  20. Brilliant post Regina! And wow, what an honour to be featured – thank you so much!! Love how you applied each of these languages to actions we can take as bloggers. What makes me feel loved? Definitely being called out by my favourite bloggers who’s work I admire 🙂 I also think sharing content on social media is huge. It shows the blogger: a) who you are, if you don’t know them b) It’s a great way to start building a relationship c) through social proof you’re really helping to solve your readers’ problems because it so clearly resonated with them. Have I mentioned how awesome you are? Love your work!

  21. Yami says:

    So glad I stumbled across your blog- you definitely speak my language! 🙂

    • regina says:

      Aww, yay. Thank you so much for your sweet comment. I apologize for replying late.

      P.S. Your profile picture on your blog is a ton of fun. Makes me want to go travel and take a jumping pic.

  22. Kayla says:

    Regina… how many times do I have to get sucked in to your blog when I am trying to get work done!? But for real, this post is great so I had to share it with my private blog group on FB. My favorite that you mention is to leave a note on another social media outlet because to me that SCREAMS caring about your reader. Making a note on my board to do that more often!

    • regina says:

      Wow, Kayla. Thank you so much for sharing it. And thank you for your sweet comment. Haha. The Interweb often sucks me in when I’m trying to work, so I get it.

      Please forgive me for replying to your comment so late.

      P.S. What is this magical board you reference? Do you keep a notes board at your desk? I need to upgrade. I’m using sticky notes on a poster board right now.

      • I actually use a similar method. I have a calendar dry erase board that I use color coded sticky notes for my post scheduling vs using a editorial calendar. I also have two closet doors painted with chalkboard paint as my brainstorming boards (because it’s fun) and another dry erase board with columns: blog, Beachbody, Jamberry, Home. I write my action plan for each of these under the column and erase as I go. As far as the note about leaving a special comment on social media, I added it to my daily blogging list which is just a laminated sheet I have pinned up by my computer. Needless to say, I make a lot of lists, but it works for me!

  23. […] Why? Because those are the customers that are most likely to tell others about your products. Make them feel appreciated. Actually, scratch that. Don’t just make them feel appreciated – appreciate […]

  24. […] to be included in Regina’s The 5 (Blog Reader) Love Languages post! – Backyard Tin Can Fence Garden was featured on Good Housekeeping – Humbled to be […]

  25. Jenny says:

    You are full of amazing and useful tips. Just went back through a ton of your posts- all incredibly wonderful and inspiring for new bloggers like myself. I love blogging and hope my love comes across in my writing- and this post is super helpful for learning to actively engage with readers.

    Thanks so much for all your posts! They’re a joy to read.

  26. […] 5 love languages fro bloggers (By Regina) […]

  27. Crystal says:

    Regina I have an MBA but I have learned more from you in a short time than I ever learned about marketing in business school! You could easily teach a college class.

  28. Veelana says:

    Hello Regina,
    first time commenting on your blog. After years of on and off blogging on a personal/creative blog I’m currently starting over with a blog I intend to make money with. I found my niche and right now I’m collecting all the information I can get.
    Your posts have been super helpful!
    I really love it when a blog author takes the time to answer comments. I actually squeed yesterday when one of my favourite authors replied to a comment I left on one of her stories.
    I like free stuff, but doesn’t everyone? It really doesn’t make me return to a blog, though. Funny and/or quirky writing does the trick, though 🙂
    About the love language thingy: I only discovered it about two years ago. My love language being words came of exactly ZERO surprise to me. But when I figured out that my DH was an act of services guy, it totally changed my perspective! And made it way easier for me to let him know I actually DO love him 🙂
    So, thank you for all the help, I will be comming back (not a thread, I promise!)
    Vee

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